Cleaning = Serenity

Every weekend growing up weekends were filled with our lists of chores you did.  They were expected and somehow rewarding all at the same time.  You would put your name next to the chore and cross it out to feel that satisfaction of a job well done…and then you could relax and go on your merry way.

Well now that I’m married those pre-conceived notions have come along with the package I must say.  It’s now a requirement that we must create a list every weekend …no not really, but I may make a mental one…

1.Laundry

2.Dishes

3.Bathrooms

4. Vacuum (3 animals people)

5.Groceries

Don’t all efficient adults do this?  Well they should if not.  But this is where the whole unspoken expectations come into play in marriage.  It’s typical for a person to see the mom do certain chores and expect to carry that out once she’s married and to expect the husband to do certain chores cause your dad did.

Anyways, what I’ve figured out is that weekend ritual my family so kindly created has psychologically connected the necessity for a clean house in order for me to enjoy my weekend.  Cleaning = serenity…after having this epiphony the other week I shared it with the other sisters and they agreed.  This is why the boys get such a hard time every weekend when they don’t follow suit!    Since then I’ve tried to make it a little easier for my husband. 

Now that I’m aware that all I need to be happy is for him to clean the whole house…I just have to make it known now, right?