Weight Watchers Update

So maybe I should of been better at the before and after pics.  But really who wants to go back and take a picture when you feel your worst?  But I probably could of docuemted it better, and for that I am sorry.

Irregardless, what weight watchers has/is doing for me was showing me where I was over-doing it.  I am a 100% foodie, love the stuff, watch the food network 24/7, eat, live and breathe it.  Do I make the wrong choices?  Not necessarily…I love my veggies, and EVOO, and fruits…however what I had been doing wrong is eating the wrong quantities.  That along with some poor choices, and you add an additional 30lbs in a year and a half or so.  Yeah = not pretty.

So luckily I had some support from a friend at work.  She suggested I join along with her so she could lose her baby weight and I could lose my…umm (finding a sufficient excuse) post newlywed weight.  So our 6 month program is now over, (probably be joining the next set when avail at my work) but went on my wii fit and am now very close to the normal BMI.  Which is amazing!  I have officially lost 21 lbs since my last Dr. appmt a 8-9 months ago.  Which is also amazing because they kept telling me to lose some weight since I was now in a pre-diabetic state. Which at first made me gain more weight because it was depressing.  (It’s an endless cycle people).

So anyways, I wanted to share some tidbits of information with you that made all the difference.

1.  Every day is a new day – if you mess up the day before and go a little crazy, wake up with the desire to make good choices again. 

2.  Eat 5 servings of fruits and veggies a day.  These are filling foods – so you’re not starving for the next snack.  They also have the vitamins and minerals your body needs to feel better and look better.

3.  No what foods you go crazy on.  “The green light foods” – these foods are the ones you can’t hold yourself back from.  So either find a way to make them healthy, or stay away from them.

4.  Educate yourself!!!  This was probably the biggest deal for me, because it seemed like I naturally was drawn to the less filling, higher calorie items.  If I was looking at a menu, grocery shopping, or just choosing a snack and just choose whatever looked the best to me it was almost 95 times out of 100 the worst thing to eat.  So I had to retrain myself and look up the nutrition facts first.  Once I started seeing positive results the Italian Cheese Bread from Little Ceasars didn’t do it for me anymore.  (ok, I may still struggle with that one from time to time)

5.  Be more active.  K, I was a dance from like the age of 5 thru college…so I naturally was pretty comfortable in my skin.  However being that I was dancing and I enjoyed it so much, it didn’t feel like it was a work out.  I tried the gym thing, but it felt like a chore.  So I’ve gone out of my way and found things that are my like activities than work.  Such as bike riding, finding a local ballet class, or taking my lunch hour at work and hoping on the elliptical/tread mill.

So that’s my spiel, and I’m still on track and hoping to get to my goal of 145 sooner than later.  However after my celebratory italian meal last night I may need to put a couple more excercises in place again!  As of yesterday 14 more lbs to go.

Oklahoma travels - feeling better

Marriage Advice from a Newbie

Well I’ve been doing some research lately on marriage. We’ve been married a year now this September, but dated for 7 years prior so we’re not that fresh out of the bag.   Yeah i don’t know what i mean by that either

Anyways, I’ve learned about several words of wisdom from various resources and I thought I’d share one of them.

Lesson #1 Commnication comes in all forms.

1. Adult –> Adult

Talking to an adult as an adult is when full respect for the other person comes across and is a healthy method of exchange.

2.Parent –>Child

If someone speaks down or in a commanding way then the natural response for a person is to respond as a child.  Now that child may be compliant or rebellious…but regardless this is not an ideal communication method.  However I know I’ve seen myself go along this road when dishes are left or the bed is unmade

Child –>Child

Another form of communicating, however if you are both responding back and forth like children you can imagine how much really gets resolved.  My sister tends to play the not it rule with her husband which would line up with this method.

Lesson #2

I can only control my own actions/emotions…

Yeah, I’ve come up with this theory about married life versus dating life.  Let me know if you agree…it goes like this:

When dating – the boy (and the girl for that manner) are on excellent behavior with eachother…no farting in front of eachother, cleaning up after themselves, putting their best foot forward at all times.

Well, when one gets married the boy then doesn’t have to pull out all the courting tactics.  They got the girl, they have the ring…and they are now free to be themselves 100% completely.

Let me tell you after dating someone for 7 years or so…(long distance and all)  it was a bit of a shock to me to not have the 100% full adoration 24/7.  All of a sudden everything I was doing wasn’t so perfect anymore.  And his clean bedroom wasn’t so spotless anymore.  And that unmessy bedroom of his became ours. 

(Yeah we were one of the few who didn’t live together before marriage)…

Lesson #3 (spawning off of my thoery) – It’s all about the approach.  Utilization is a psychological theory having someone help you by pulling on the theories and ideas that they love.  For example:  My husband is an avid lover of sports…football, baseball, basetball.  But especially football as of lately with his underdog Cardinals team go to the SuperBowl as of late.  So this was one of the things before we were married that showed up after the fact.

Before marriage, big game playing:  I come over to visit my boyfriend and his eyes light up and he shuts off the tv at the drop of a hat and takes me out on a to lunch and a movie.

After marriage, big game playing:  I walk into our family room and husband doesn’t hear/see me because the game is on…

So being that the sport is such a love of his…I can use the utilization method and pull on that love of the sport mindset and use that in our marriage.  AKA chores.  I divy it up, make a goal for us to meet, then applaud our teamwork after the fact.  It connects the dots for him…I get want I want out of my hubby and he gets  the satisfaction of feeling like he’s doing someting he loves too.

Let me know your tips you’ve learned throughout the years…I can always use more

One year later...